Most people enter into relationships and are very optimistic that their relationship will last for a long time. However, the majority of relationship end up in dissolution. What could be some of the most common reasons why many relationships don’t last? The following list is not comprehensive. It only suggests some most common reasons for break-ups in many relationships.
1. Expectations Issues
There’s is a wise saying which says, “Two cannot walk together unless they agree”. It is very had for a couple to walk in a relationship for a long time if they have different expectations. For example, a man may expect to get four children’s, whereas the woman may just be thinking of getting two children’s. It is best that before the couple enters a relationship they may discuss their expectations.
2. Abuse Issues
Some of the relational abuses like verbal, emotional, physical and sexual abuses cause relationships not to last long. Most of these abuses are against the law. Some of the causes of these kinds of abuses are drug abuse, bad company and the bring up one from his childhood. Anyone who was brought from an abusive family, the possibility of them being abusive in their marriage is high. Any relationship which has such abuses will not be able to last long.
3. Mistrust Issues
Trust is the fountain of any relationship. Lack of trust is very harmful to any relationship. Whenever trust is lost then it is hard to keep the relationship. Some of the cause of loss of trust can be sexual infidelity, lack of transparency in finances, jealousy, and lack of mutual support among others. Relationships cannot be sustained for a long time without trust. Trust is very critical in any successful relationships.
4. Communication Issues
This is one of the greatest causes of many relationships not lasting for long. Many studies have pointed out that communication can make or break any relationships. When there no good communication among the spouse it cause a rift among the partners. Whenever there is a rift in any relationships, if not solved it will cause any relationship not to last for a long time.
5. Money Issues
Disputes in money issues tend to affect deeply our psychological needs. It causes partners to feel insecure with each other. Research has proved that disputes caused by money issues are the top reasons for many marital separation and dissolutions. Most marital divorces are caused by differences caused by money and money related issues such as ownership of properties etcetera.
Conclusion
Each couple may have a different set of reasons why their relationships could not work. On the contrary every couple can fix their relationships and make it work. It is possible for any relationship to last long if we will avoid these pitfalls. We can avoid these common reasons which cause relationships not to last for a long time.